I am dealing with my big sister issues. Yes - she's still here.
Issues include her big mess, big ego, big mouth, poor personal hygeine, various downsides of her eating improperly while being a type 2 diabetic, listening to endless stories I have heard endless times, etc. etc. TG she can play cards because that's about the only fun thing about her that's left!
I am trying to get her into an Assisted Living facilty nearby because lord knows she should not be living on her own. We have looked at a couple and I think she is almost ready to make the life change. I hope so. She is basically immobile & dependent on the kindness of strangers and old friends to get through life. She should be in a wheelchair but staggers around with a fancy brass dragon cane instead. She has burned through all her old friends in Hawaii; they are done with driving & fetching for her because she totally imposes. She can't seem to fully process anything involving future planning by herself and just drops back into her 60s & early 70s comfort zone. Which were very nice years but sheesh. I am pretty sure it's not Altzheimers, just pigheaded denial.
Will someone save me lol?
In my next life I will not be born the youngest in my family. I will be the oldest and very demanding. People will take care of me and bring me treats.
Kim, we are looking at a place in your state too - Red Cedar Canyon Assisted Living, in Hudson WI. Maybe WI will be cheaper. Places we like will cost her about $2600/mo, about $600 more than she wants to pay.
Out for now...
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Oh my - good person you are to take care of her. Good luck in finding a place. We had DH's mom living with us before she went to an assisted living place - not really a fun time, but glad the kids could spend time with her before she passed away several months later. We'd had issues in the past, but I had to look past that and try to have compassion on an individual who was not well.
Best of luck.
Ugh, I do not envy you right now. Sounds like AL is a good idea (I mean Assisted Living, though Alabama might also be a good option for YOU). Maybe you can find a place where residents are active card players for her.
I have a couple of friends who have burned through all their friends; moved to another state and burned through those friends, and then moved back again. I hope she'll accept the Assisted Living place, but once she's there, she'll often complain and say she wants to leave and go back to her own place. She'll need to be reminded how much they do for her and how much better off she is there. Yes, I know from experience.
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